Just as a little back up, I grew up a PK. Preacher’s kid. My stepdad was a minister. As you can imagine, things were very strict at my house.
However, I am the result of unprotected teen sex, which you might think would make my mother a little more in tune with what things are like as a teenage girl but the only programming I got was “don’t do it” and nothing in the way of discussing things with me.
Like a lot of other teenage girls in America, a lot of my information came from more sexually experienced friends who were willing to “kiss and tell”.
If only there had been this book available for my friends and me to read. I honestly think I’d have done a few things differently. Go read the rest of my insights on my review blog where I will, nervously, share some highly personal stories from those teenage years.
And later, when a few answers have been recorded and my answers will blend in with the crowd, I’ll add my responses to the poll. I’m not proud of all of them, but I also know I’m not alone either. And, yes, some of the answers may be difficult to share.
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My mom was always really open about sex with me. In fact I remember when I was around 12, I asked her how lesbians even had sex. She actually found an age appropriate way of telling me.
She always told me that I should wait until I know I'm ready to have sex and preferably wait until I'm married. But she was realistic. She said to go to her when I was ready so she could get me birth control.
My boyfriend's parents just ignored the issue of sex ed and told him to wait until marriage. I had to teach him pretty much everything. If I hadn't known, we would have been teen parents.
Teenagers will ultimately do what they want no matter what their parents say. I think it's better to teach them sex ed just in case they find themselves unable to control their hormones.
I was always so afraid of something happening to me, I never did have sex in high school. I'm lucky too, cuz I did have an incident of drinking and passing out and who knows what could have happened to me. Luckily no one had blue enough balls to poke a puking girl.
I didn't do any of those things. In fact I still haven't. I didn't date until college and I married the person I dated. We're still married.
Wow - great poll.
the message when I was growing up was a simple one..do not have sex because if ya do you will be disowned...
I have strived to be open with my kids about sex...don't want them to make a mistake because I was too stupid to advise them...
Education, education, education - knowledge is power. Especially when discussing teenagers and sex.
*got some catching up to do, I hope you're having a great week so far!*
I was sexually active from the age of 16, which would have absolutely sent my parents to their graves. That being said, I used birth control from the beginning.
You missed the "total geek and didn't have sex in high school" choice. I was just totally afraid I'd get pregnant (of course, now when I want to get pregnant... but I digress) My parents didn't really talk about it. My younger sister was sexually active years before I was. (see above "geek" reference)
I agree that teens will do what they want to do. I just hope that I have enough brains/values/ openness to teach my daughter to do what she's comfortable with and what's right for her, not everyone else. And that I'm here if she needs me.
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